Thanksgiving Dinner 2015

As we just finish making out stuffing and stuffing it in the turkey, and putting the turkey in the oven, this year we have much to be thankful for. We are not religious by any means, but we celebrate all holidays by just getting together with our family and speeding valuable time with them, as we are all bust throughout the year. This year our third child almost died, as some of my previous posts have stated. He was hours away from dying had we had gone back to the hospital in the afternoon instead we went into the morning, and the doctor ordered a complete CBC and then was immediately admitted. Although that is in our past, and some families have dealt with wise situations then we did, we are truly greatful that we still our baby and he is doing well… We have gone through a lot as a family this year, but I am not surprised what so ever on how we handled everything. I am thankful and happy that our other two older children handled this past year extremely well. They might of got pushed to the side while we dealt with our baby in the hospital for a few weeks, they handled it very well, and they understood, but it was still sad to see. Now their baby brother is 7 months on Oct 14th and they still love him and want to help me anyway they can. Some days I am stressed because of the lack of sleep, since the babe still gets up every few hours at night, the other older children take it in stride. If you Noa and Chloe ever read this some day, it does not go unnoticed. I appreciate everything you do, and how you help me, and how you try not to get upset when I am frustrated and stressed. My parents have also been helpful, anytime they can they watch the babe so my husband and I can go on a date night. And my husbands dad and step mom has helped me out a lot, while the babe was colic until he was 4 months, when he was 2 months they took him every friday for a few hours so I could relax and not get too stressed and not go crazy. That definitely helped me out a lot. But my time was spent packing because we were moving to a bigger house lol … All in all we had a great year thus far, and have much to be thankful for.


My life with a husband who loves to work and do tons of overtime

When I started dating my husband I was so not used to a ‘man’ working, let alone working tons of hours and doing overtime.

Here is my back story; I started dating this guy when I was 15, and he was 19. We moved in together when I was 17, and I got pregnant at 18 and I had my child when I was almost 19. Though he worked then, he would say he was working overtime but later I found out he would leave work early and go to his buddies house and get high (pot, cocaine) We then moved in with his family and within a year and a half we had two kids, and here in Canada if you work at least 600 hours in a 52 week period you can take a year off on maternity leave. Well with both my kids I was able to have that year off, but with my first I had to go back to work when he was 8 months old, and my second I had to go back when she was 2 months old. Because he rarely worked, he would call in sick all the time, and obviously we had bills and children to provide for. Well then we moved out on our own, and within a year we had to move back i with his family because he actually quit his good paying job to play World of Warcraft! So that meant I somehow had to pay for rent, hydro, water, gas, groceries, car payment, car insurance, gas for the car to get to and from work, anything the kids needed, on a 800 dollar pay cheque every two weeks. So after a few months of moving back in with his family he still played WoW all day long while I was working two full time jobs, and I had, had enough plus he was abusing me in all forms and the day I left him was the day he choked me in front of our children.

So now back to my story!

So when my husband and I started dating he had just been an RN for a few months, and I remember him telling me he feels rich because he wasn’t used to making so much money from a job. But then he moved in and then had to provide for my two children, myself and him. From someone coming from just him and spending his money on whatever he wanted after bills were paid he soon realized he wasn’t so ‘rich’

Now 3.5 years later he is still doing his regular hours and lately is working a lot of overtime because we recently moved into a new house and the rent is 200 dollars more a month, but its 4 bedrooms, 2 full bathrooms which is what we need with 3 kids now. As well as my husband 2007 car which is bought new when he started his BScN is now falling apart and is now leaking gas. So we now have to get a new car and will have 2 car payments. Since I’m on mat for another 6 months and getting 1360 a month, he needs to go so much overtime to make sure he can cover the new car payment.

We relationship/marriage is strange, he is the one who loves to spend money where as I don’t like spending money and I try to save it as much as I can. I am not sure if that is because I have been a mother for almost 12 years, and I rarely had any money for years, plus I don’t like spending money on myself. Which my husband makes sure I do because he says I make sure everything is done in the house and I am a home provider for our children at the moment and I do a lot for myself, and I should treat myself.

So I decided to do this blog today, because in the peat two weeks I haven’t seen my husband, expect on his days off when he decides not to do overtime. He leaves at 530am and is home around 8pm, but if he decides to do a 16 hour shift he doesn’t get home until midnight, and up to go back to work and leave at 530am again. Then he texts me today and and says he didn’t get overtime today (of course its a stat holiday so everyone showed up for their shift because its double time) but tomorrow is his day off and he says I’m working 4 hours tomorrow and then we are going car shopping. I was not frustrated but upset because also the past two weeks our infant has been teething and going through a growth spurt. He will be six months next week, and he is up every 2-3 hours at night and then only naps two times throughout the day for 30 mins. I am exhausted, and I was hoping he would get up all night so i could sleep because I am starting to not be able to focus and I have been getting a constant headache that is from the lack of sleep. So I express this to him, and he said I’m doing so much and that he will get up with him all night and that he will just be tired while at work. I appreciate that, but its more the 45 mins drive to work and from work I’m concerned about, him driving while getting up with our child.

As much as I would love to sleep through the whole night and sleep in at times, I know my husband is doing all this overtime so he can provide for his family for the necessities we need and for the things we want. ❤